“Some men are paralysed into indefinite bachelorhood because they are looking for the perfect female. There is no such thing. Some of the so-called beauties come with horrible flaws.”
Excerpt From: Dag Heward-Mills. “The Art of Leadership.” Dag Heward-Mills.
- You are paralyzed because you can’t be decisive
Great leadership and great progress in life comes with great decision-making. Your inability to make decisions at the right time will cost you. Jacob decided very early that he would like to marry Rachel. With this in mind, he worked diligently towards it. Bishop says, most decisions are between two bad choices anyway. Learn to choose the lesser evil and choose early! Just as when you are driving and need to cease lanes, you look for a gap and cease the moment. Cease the opportunity, don’t let it pass you by! Don’t look for perfection, you’ll only be disappointed. Enough of playing around with several options and the hearts of several sisters! The sisters are also tired of you la!
- You are paralyzed because you cannot accept advice (prophecy)
“And Isaac called Jacob, and blessed him, and charged him, and said unto him, Thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan. Arise, go to Padanaram, to the house of Bethuel thy mother’s father; and take thee a wife from thence of the daughters of Laban thy mother’s brother. “ – Genesis 28:1-2
Jacob followed the advice of his father and chose a wife from their family. Many brothers struggle because they can’t accept wise counsel and obey it. They have been told to marry from the church and they know about the consequences of not doing so, but they still wish to go ahead and make their own mistakes. Most brothers cannot reconcile the fact that prophecy from their father or pastor is an inspired message from God. Be willing to flow and trust the prophecy!
- You are paralyzed because you have let the past cripple you
Jacob was not deterred by his mistake of marrying in the night. Brother, is it because of one past relationship that you are afraid to move forward? Have your parents’ bad example driven you into fear? Paul says forgetting the things behind him, he presses on toward the mark of the high calling. You must press on and forget past things to achieve anything high in this life!
- You are paralyzed because of your pride.
Your pride is leading you to have false expectations. Nothing is good enough for you. But when you are humble, you appreciate and honor the sisters that God has brought your way. Jacob could have despised Rachel because she was taking care of her father’s sheep. She was not dressed in fancy clothes with a fresh hairstyle. It is your pride that makes you desire a woman who is overly concerned about her outward appearance. Brother, put God first and don’t be deceived by high and flashy things.
- You are paralyzed because you are not being intentional
Jacob was extremely intentional in winning the beloved of his choice. Good things do not just fall off trees like fruits. Don’t be surprised if you have to work to win the attention, devotion and love of the sister God has prepared for you. Jacob rolled the stone off the well for Rachel. In addition, he worked 14 years in order to marry her! Don’t be surprised if you must roll of the stone of your family prejudice against your beloved. Don’t be surprised if you must wait for her to finish school or move to where you are to marry you. A virtuous woman is hard to find and her price is far above rubies. You must spend time to work on yourself, your spiritual life and your ability to be a leader and a breadwinner. You must spend time to pray and ask God for His perfect will, it will not just happen. You must pray till it happens!
Don’t be like the impotent man in John 5:7 who answered Jesus saying “Sir, I have no man, when the water is troubled, to put me into the pool:but while I am coming, another steppeth down before me.”
Rise up and be a Jacob and take that which belongs to you! In Jesus’ name. And let the church (the brothers) say, AMEN!